"Treat him mean to keep him keen"

The Bible encourages us to be loving, kind, hospitable, warm, friendly (the list goes on) I'm talking about boy girl relationships.  When we love someone we are going to be propelled to do things for them to express that love.  It may be baking cupcakes or what ever feels most natural to you. 

Then the opposing notion says , "treat him mean to keep him keen".  Surely if this is the case then the relationship is not being driven by the wagon of love.  What do you think?

I think the answer is always love.  Loving yourself and loving others.  

Love,
Sarah**